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Hey, ringers, welcome back to the Put A Ring On It podcast, where we're all about sharing helpful and practical tips for anyone and everyone that's planning a wedding. I'm Danielle Pasternak, wedding planner of DPNAK events. And I'm Dan Moyer, a wedding photographer at Daniel Moyer Photography. All right, Dan, what are we talking about today? Today we're talking about the elephant in the room and why we left this podcast.
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Well, when you say it like that, it sounds so sad. Why we jumped the podcast. Well, there's a surprise happy ending and that's that we're back. We're well, we're coming back. We're coming back. Yes. Y'all, it's it's been a minute. It's been many, many minutes. Many, many, much minutes. So when we come back airing, it will be like nearly two years to the day, like pretty close to the day. Right. Mm hmm.
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when we decided to end the podcast or take an indefinite break, I guess, from the podcast. I think that's what we said. Like the last episode, we were like, well, we're just going to take a break. We don't know what's going to happen. We don't know when we're going to come back or if we're going to come back. Right, right, right, right. And at that point, we really weren't sure. All we knew is that at that point, we were coming. Well, I mean, we very much still, I guess, are in this like...
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COVID era, but at that point, fall 2021, we were still very much in the thick of working on postponed weddings and really heartbroken couples and couples having to really navigate what was an entirely new landscape of weddings. And we were very much along for the ride for all of that with the clients that we had. And what we realized was as much as we loved doing this podcast, something had to give somewhere
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providing us with the same level of joy and positivity that it always kind of had. And we knew that it was time to like, either reset, step away, take a breath. And that's what we did, basically, it just became so heavy, like it became a thing that we were like checking a box, rather than being like, hey, we've got all this like really great information to share. And we know we're super excited for couples. And at that point, I think we were both just so worn down. And like, in all honesty, like,
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But also the big part of that was I had brand new twins that I was still trying to figure out and I had no no ability to take a step back and figure out how to work best with, you know, having twins and the the shift in the wedding photography world and then trying to add this on top of it. I like was not working efficiently. I was like working right up until like the very last minute. I was not even preparing for like episodes when we were coming on and all that stuff. And it was just like not.
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know, that wasn't a great way to be showing up for this podcast for you also, who put in so much time and effort and energy into like, outlining things and all that stuff. And I'm just coming like with half a brain to do nothing and like no time and in all I see, one of the things that you know, I've learned over the last two years is like just how to manage time better and how to streamline things more efficiently and knowing where my time really needs to go. And, you know, it's
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it's amazing when you take a step back and you're able to look at like your life and what's important and look at your priorities and all that stuff that things really start to line up. And it's funny that this podcast ended up coming back into the fold as something that's important. Um, and so that's why, you know, here we are. Yeah, here we are. Well, yeah, you make a great point there. I think in the past, so much of the episode, I would prep in advance. I, we'd have a topic and I would do a really hefty outline as y'all know that I do.
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I do this for anything. I have any meeting I have, I always have outlines in notes upon notes upon notes because I wanna make sure that it's thorough and we are covering all the things. And that was part of what was burning me out because it felt like I was trying to just put everything I possibly could into an episode. And then instead of it being a fun and helpful episode, I felt like I was just kind of dumping information and then Dan was also trying to, you know, help me carry that load there. So I think at the time we were just both pouring from.
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and trying ringing that rag out to the last drop but pouring from pretty empty cups. And Dan, I think your kids now are all in college now, right? Is that how much time has passed? We're all super smart. We like got them, they're major Doogie Housers. And if you're underneath the age of 30, you probably have no clue what Doogie Houser is. No, no. Yeah, and word of caution on watching it on Disney Plus, we turned it on the other night and it is not at all what I remember. It is really inappropriate.
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Oh, how weird. Yeah, it's I we watched it with the 11 year old in the house and we turned it off halfway through because it was like, I'm not. This is not. I don't remember it really quite so. Yeah. I mean, I mean, if you're an adult and you want to check it out, go for it. But it's, it's not what I remember. It all went over my head when I was little, I guess. I don't know. Yeah. I mean, I remember seeing it like when I was very young, like I probably haven't watched an episode in 25 years. 25 years. I can say that weird.
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In the pilot episode, I mean, spoiler, in the pilot episode, so Doogie is a teenage doctor, right? Like that's the whole premise of the show. In the pilot episode, an adult female nurse is like actively and verbally hitting on this person, on Doogie Howser, and like being very forward and very sexual and all these things. And it was like.
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whoa, and not even beating around the bush saying, I really like younger men. And it's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. That's creepy. It started leaning that way. And like, Mike and I were just looking at each other and then we just got leaned more and more and more. And they're like, okay, we're done. We're done. Yeah, and we're turned off. Let's put on something else. Anyway. Yeah, so speaking of like turning things off and turning back on, I mean, here we are. And I think like, so obviously we've done, you know, a whole bunch of soul searching and stuff. And I remember texting,
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didn't talk about the podcast for like, oh, quite a while over a year. And then like, you know, I feel I think I put the feelers out there and I was like, I this like it, I feel like it's missing, like I feel like something is missing. And I want this to come back. And, and we both had our qualms our our like, you know, expectations of what needed to happen for it to work. And we've been trying some things out and we're excited for it to be like sort of feeling right.
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So that's where we were and here's where we're going. What do you think Dee? Where are we going? So like I said, in the past, I would kind of outline every episode. What Dan proposed is for future episodes, he is going to bring a topic to the table that I don't know what it is and we're gonna talk about it. The episodes are gonna be probably a little bit shorter, more around like probably half an hour-ish, give or take. And instead of me having a whole outline of notes to share with you, we're just gonna have
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what I hope is going to be a fun conversation. We're gonna cover the topic. We're probably gonna get a little bit off topic and it. You mean like that whole Dooky Houser thing? What? I don't know. I'm gonna edit that out. Yeah, it's, yeah. I think we've done a few practice rounds, which I think have gone really well. If y'all have listened to this podcast for any bit of time, you know that there's a certain amount of spontaneity that
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absolutely terrifies the crap out of me. So having to show up what feels like unprepared is often terrifying. But as we get to talking, Dan always reminds me that all of this knowledge lives in my brain. I just have to find it. Here's how I knew this. I've seen Danielle in action talking with couples. I've seen Danielle on a wedding day. I've seen Danielle talk with couples who are not her clients. And she's got this amazing amount of knowledge in her brain
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I know if somebody is able to pull that out, that she shines, right. And so I said, I'm actually not an expert at weddings in the same way that Danielle is right. I'm that's why we call Danielle the brains of this. And I am the heart of this. I think I'm a much better interviewer than I am in terms of bringing the same amount of value to this podcast in terms of sheer knowledge and logistics and all that stuff, as Danielle does. So I said, Hey,
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let me interview you and surely I'm going to talk you know, add plenty of stories in there and talk about when I got married and you know, the things that I've seen in 13 plus years of being a wedding photographer and all that stuff. But I think my job is to take all of that knowledge in your brain and just keep asking questions that just like dive down if I'm if I'm like I've got my little hammer and my little chisel I'm just gonna like tinker away at the dark cave that is your brain and I'm just gonna look for the gems that are in there.
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Yes, yeah, it's all sour patch kids. That's the whole goal of like the podcast going forward is like, you know, it doesn't it's not fully rehearsed. Yeah. Danielle knows nothing. I'm I she that's kind of all the cards. Yeah, that's it. I literally when I say that when Danielle says what are we talking about today, Dan? Yes. I that's when I dropped the
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the bomb on her on what we're talking about. And then we just go into it and I start asking questions. And my I immediately start sweating and my brain goes a mile a minute. And then yeah, we just have a good conversation. And then there's this beautiful filter on front of your face, though, that like somehow all the jumbled mess that you say is in your brain comes out really beautifully. And and it's really amazing.
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Yeah, that's just AI, I think, coming out. That's what it is. It's an AI filter. We just run through an AI filter. Yeah, but yeah, that's one change that we're doing to the podcast. Another change is, in the past, we've always released episodes every other week in season format. So where we ended, we were on- Yes, we took a break in the middle. Right, where we ended, we were on season nine. Coming back in, we're officially coming back September 5th as the date. Yeah.
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uh, 2023 and we are no longer going to be doing season. So we are still going to do every other week episodes every other Tuesday. And we're just going to keep right on going barring some who knows what life might throw at us. But our current plan is that we're just going to keep on putting out episodes. So no more seasons, just episodes, uh, more consistently. Yeah. And let's be honest here, right? Like the core message of this podcast is unchanged. Our format may have changed a little bit and all that kind of stuff.
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but we're still gonna be talking about, you know, very practical wedding planning tips. We're still gonna be talking about putting up some of the blinders and like moving through some of the muck and sludge that can like weigh you down as you're planning a wedding and focusing on the thing that is really amazing about weddings, which is having all your friends and family under one roof for a happy reason or.
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or shedding everybody's expectations and getting a lope or whatever it is. But the whole message behind this podcast is joy, right? Like in creating a wedding day, that is something that speaks to you and your partner and and really focusing on that rather than a lot of the things that can be distracting to couples. So we're here to bring you that. Yeah, we're honestly really, really excited for it. We've received all of your many messages asking us when we were coming back and just sending us.
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so much love and that love was always coming right back to all of you. So we are very excited to bring you some new episodes. We will see you on September 5th and until then know that we are working very hard behind the scenes to bring you our, bring you our hearts back. The Putter Manor podcast is co-hosted by wedding planner, Danielle Pasternak and photographer Daniel Moyer, both based out of the greater Philadelphia area. The show is produced by DP Knack Events along with Daniel Moyer Photographer.
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